Sorry, You’re Not A Winner

Everyone thinks they’re special. This idea has been planted into people’s minds since they were young. It started out by rewarding people not for being great, but simply for participating. Everyone’s a winner! Reality check. Most people aren’t.

Face it, you’ve been told all your life how awesome you are and now as you’re getting older, you realize you aren’t where you wanted or expected to be in life. That’s what happens when you constantly get praised for everything. Disillusionment does more harm than good.

We constantly seek approval from our peers. It’s a never-ending need that consumes our lives. Why do you think social media is so popular? It’s a tool to help us feed our narcissism.

Like after like after like. We can’t get enough of all the likes. Knowing that people are showing us attention and approving of what we have to say to the world makes us feel special.

The amount of likes you get on Facebook shouldn’t be measuring your level of happiness. Your success in the real world, not the online one, is what you should be placing an emphasis on. But with nothing to show for in reality, many rely on their social media pages to provide themselves with some sort of distorted validation.

That’s what happens when you hand out trophies to every single child. You get the Participation Trophy Generation, an entire group of people who were praised all their lives for accomplishing nothing. People who have a constant need to be told how great they are. Well, guess what? If everyone’s a winner, then no one is.

I never understood why teachers placed an emphasis on leading amongst peers. Every kid had to lead for some reason. Yet we all had to follow the direct instructions provided by our teachers for all assignments. So much for the confidence in our leadership skills…

Why bother trying to get everyone to lead when only a select few can lead in the workforce anyways? I mean, most people end up working at a Wendy’s, they don’t end up becoming the President.

Leadership always seemed like a ridiculous notion to encourage kids to have. The way I see it is if a kid grows up wanting to become a leader, they’ll figure it out on their own. You telling them they should become one won’t turn them into one.

Yes, you may have been told to lead all throughout your educational tenure, but here’s the deal, not everyone is cut out to be a leader. And that’s okay.

There’s too many people out there, especially young people who think they know it all. They don’t and they still have a long way to go before even coming close.

These same people tend to think they are entitled handouts. As if the world owes them something? Guess what, it doesn’t. If you want stuff, you work for it.

You don’t have to feel bad for taking orders from others, chances are you most likely will for the rest of your life. Everybody takes orders from somebody.

We all have our place in life. Some people are significantly more important than others and that’s just the truth. Don’t like it? Too bad. Life isn’t here to cater to your feelings.

Yes, you might not be cut out to be a business owner. It’s okay to be a worker. Hell, most people are workers! There’s no shame in it. Every one of us at some point or another has worked for somebody else.

Every machine needs its cogs to keep moving along and functioning properly. Most of us are cogs, myself included. I’m certainly not the one holding the entire universe in place.

From the physicians of society to the janitors working at public spaces, everyone has their role to play, and that’s what allows society to function efficiently.

Really, it’s fine that you aren’t the CEO of the company you work for, but hey, whatever kind of job you do have, just be the best that you can possibly be at it.

There’s no shame in belonging in the middle class. It’s the middle class that’s the backbone of any society. At one point or another, we’ve all mopped floors, flipped burgers or rung up customers at the cash register. Working is a necessary part of life. It keeps us motivated and focused.

Don’t want to stay stuck in the same position at work for the rest of your life? Observe from the best and surround yourself with people who are better than you. Everyone starts off as a student before they can become a master. Eventually, you can work your way up the ladder if you’re up for it.

Swallow your pride, humble yourself a little, get out there, take chances, but be realistic with yourself.

Let’s face it, you’re not going to be an NBA star at 4’5” tall. It ain’t happening. Learn to accept who you are as a person and where you fit in the world.

Chances are, you don’t know everything there is to know. There’s always room for improvement, so better yourself every chance you get.

The reason most people don’t succeed, is because they ultimately have chosen not to. They’re either walking down the wrong path and are too stubborn to realize it or they’re simply lazy.

We all have choices. We make the choices that put us on a certain path in life. If you’re somehow feeling cheated or wronged, realize that no one else is accountable for your actions, but yourself.

I fully believe that everyone has the opportunity to work hard, save up money and accomplish all their goals.

I’d hope for everyone out there to find success in all that they do. I want to live in a world where everyone can prosper and take care of themselves. There’s plenty of room for success for everyone. If you aren’t happy with how your life is, it’s up to you to make those changes for the better.

I believe everyone can be prosperous, but I don’t believe that everyone deserves to be, simply for existing. You have to earn your prosperity. Once you do, I’ll applaud you. ‘Till then, quit your bitching and keep on working. There’s still plenty of work to do for all of us!

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Author: Robby J. Fonts

Editor-in-Chief at The RANTidote

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